Here are five typical types of relationships and how to improve them:
1. Best Friends. Others envy your relationship with one another. While this is good as you operate on a level playing field, you must also remember that at times, a daughter needs a parent. So both parties need to respect their roles and acknowledge the generation gap.
2. Sisterly. Though not quite best friends, you have a deep connection with each other and like each other. Usually in this type of relationship, there is some sense of competition, even though many families want to repress it. So try to understand what the other is feeling and be especially supportive int hose areas.
3. Clashing Personalities. You're always butting heads against each other, which can be difficult. Mothers should not underestimate their power and overestimate their daughter and vice versa. Adult daughters should listen to their mother's advice even if they don't necessarily have to follow them so that the mother wont feel ignored.
4. Reverse Nurture. Your roles are switching because of age, health, finances or culture. This usually improves relations as daughters feel needed and mothers feel loved. But it's important for daughters to make sure mothers feel more valued as they become less dominant in the family. Take time to talk about traditions and values that you share.
5. Enmeshed. No decision gets made without the others approval in this type of relationship. While you can always count on the other, it;s tough to create boundaries. Because this type of relationship is often driven by fear of abandonment, it is good to slowly build boundaries while still emphasizing the mother's value.
1. Best Friends. Others envy your relationship with one another. While this is good as you operate on a level playing field, you must also remember that at times, a daughter needs a parent. So both parties need to respect their roles and acknowledge the generation gap.
2. Sisterly. Though not quite best friends, you have a deep connection with each other and like each other. Usually in this type of relationship, there is some sense of competition, even though many families want to repress it. So try to understand what the other is feeling and be especially supportive int hose areas.
3. Clashing Personalities. You're always butting heads against each other, which can be difficult. Mothers should not underestimate their power and overestimate their daughter and vice versa. Adult daughters should listen to their mother's advice even if they don't necessarily have to follow them so that the mother wont feel ignored.
4. Reverse Nurture. Your roles are switching because of age, health, finances or culture. This usually improves relations as daughters feel needed and mothers feel loved. But it's important for daughters to make sure mothers feel more valued as they become less dominant in the family. Take time to talk about traditions and values that you share.
5. Enmeshed. No decision gets made without the others approval in this type of relationship. While you can always count on the other, it;s tough to create boundaries. Because this type of relationship is often driven by fear of abandonment, it is good to slowly build boundaries while still emphasizing the mother's value.
